“Real Housewives of Atlanta” star Drew Sidora desires of the day her husband, Ralph Pittman, legally adopts her son, Josiah — aka “Jojo” — from a earlier relationship.
But the 11-year-old is cool with the present state of affairs, in keeping with his stepdad.
“I took Jojo to the aspect and I requested him the query. I used to be like, ‘Do you need me to undertake you?’ And he mentioned, ‘What would change?’ And I mentioned, ‘Nothing would change.’” Pittman, 39, tells Page Six in an unique joint interview with Sidora, 37.
“And he mentioned, ‘So why are we doing it then?’” the entrepreneur recounts.
“There’s no cause for us to do it. He already has my final identify, so for Jojo, there’s no profit that will truly come about adopting him — as a result of he’s already mine.”
Pittman reversed his earlier plan to undertake Josiah after discussing the matter with the preteen’s organic father, who appeared open to growing a deeper relationship along with his son sooner or later.
This choice got here after Sidora expressed on “RHOA” her ardent need for the adoption to happen as her ex doesn’t play an lively position in co-parenting.
“In an ideal world, I’d love for Ralph simply to return in and make that dedication. But I would like it to be Ralph’s choice. I’d by no means need to pressure him to do it and … then he finally ends up having resentment,” explains the “Winner” singer, who wed Pittman in 2014.
“I don’t need that to be the case. So I’ve tabled that dialog. Of course, sooner or later, I’d love for that to occur,” she provides. “I do perceive to an extent what Ralph is saying. And I’ve simply chosen to simply accept that and see the place we find yourself.”
However, Sidora can’t assist however fear about what would possibly occur to Josiah if, “God forbid, one thing occurs to me,” she says.
“Legally, what occurs?” Sidora then asks, turning to her husband: “I’d need you to have the ability to have that custody of him.”
Pittman asserts that Josiah will “at all times” be his son no matter circumstance. “I don’t must go and undertake him legally with a purpose to present that he’s my son,” he says confidently. “He’s already my son. He calls me dad.”
The good-looking “Househusband” — who additionally shares two younger kids, Machai and Aniya, with Sidora — doesn’t need to jeopardize his relationship with Josiah by making a choice with out the center schooler’s participation.
“One factor I’d hate probably the most is for Jojo to become older and have that come-to-Jesus discuss along with his father and say, ‘Why weren’t you in my life?’ And then the daddy says, ‘Well, as a result of they really stripped me away from you,’” he says.
“I at all times say this. I can educate Jojo quite a bit. But the place he’s, who he’s, biologically, I can’t educate him that. I can’t educate him the place his roots are.”
But he can “love him,” Pittman factors out — and is open to revisiting adoption conversations when Josiah is prepared.
“Jojo’s 11 and he’s extraordinarily shiny and clever. He’s on the level the place he is aware of precisely what he likes and what he doesn’t like. So if Jojo got here and mentioned, ‘Dad, I would like you to undertake me as a result of I perceive what adoption means and that is precisely why I need to do it,’ then we are able to go forward and have that dialog,” he tells us.
“But that needs to be Jojo’s choice one hundred pc,” Pittman continues, Sidora nodding in settlement. “And it needs to be one thing that’s nicely thought out, that’s not influenced by anyone else, however one thing that he genuinely needs contemplating all of the totally different dynamics — additionally contemplating his organic father.”
Pittman particulars the triumphs and challenges of his step-parenting journey in his forthcoming e-book, “The Step in Parenting,” in shops Jan. 31, 2023.
“I’m married to a girl who has a toddler who’s not biologically mine. That’s difficult,” he admits. “When you could have a organic child collectively, sometimes it’s 50/50, proper? When you’re a stepparent, you don’t have a voice. You’ve obtained to earn the proper to have a voice and that voice, plenty of the instances, won’t ever be equal to your mate.”
The new writer elaborates, “You have to arrange your self as a result of there’s not an instruction handbook that may educate you tips on how to be a stepparent — and I’m simply attempting to assist by sharing my experiences.”
For extra from Pittman and Sidora, take a look at this week’s episode of Page Six’s “Virtual Reali-Tea” podcast.
“The Real Housewives of Atlanta” airs Sundays at 8 p.m. ET on Bravo.