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There’s a number of stigma round oral intercourse on vulvas and, individually, intercourse throughout menstruation. So it is no shock that once you mix the 2, there are a number of misconceptions about oral intercourse throughout your interval — primarily, that it is gross or by some means inherently unsafe.

The reality is, there’s a number of misogyny, entitlement, and customarily poor understanding of the vulvar anatomy baked into these assumptions. It’s secure (and pleasant!) to have sex on your period, it doesn’t matter what kind of intercourse it’s.

Let’s be clear: whereas it is completely secure and acceptable to have any kind of interval intercourse, you are still allowed to have preferences. It’s OK if you happen to solely wish to get pleasure from or give oral intercourse underneath sure circumstances, akin to once you or your associate are or aren’t on your interval. Preferences are tremendous, however the concept that menstruation is inherently soiled or that blood precludes individuals’s proper to consensual pleasure just isn’t.

On that word, let’s break down the details about oral intercourse on durations, safer intercourse concerns, and how one can give nice interval head.

Is Oral Sex on Your Period Safe?

For starters, there is no such thing as a such factor as utterly “secure” intercourse, says Mary Jane Minkin, MD, scientific professor within the Department of Obstetrics, Gynecology, and Reproductive Sciences on the Yale University School of Medicine.

Sex at all times carries a danger of miscommunications, discomfort, and STIs (sure, even with condoms or barrier protection). That’s why it is so vital to have conversations together with your sexual companions — regardless of what number of instances you have had intercourse or how trusting the connection — earlier than you get intimate. You ought to speak to your associate about STI danger and the last time you’ve been tested for STIs; how you may share the accountability of checking in on one another throughout intercourse; secure phrases (phrases you and your associate comply with earlier than any sexual contact, and when one is used, it means all the pieces stops, no questions requested); fluid bonding (i.e., is it OK if you happen to’re uncovered to my sexual fluids and vice versa?); sex-toy hygiene; and safety strategies (do you wish to use condoms throughout penetration or dental dams during oral?).

With menstrual blood, you wish to think about what dangers you and your associate are snug with. You can nonetheless contract an STI by way of menstrual blood, Megwyn White, scientific sexologist and director of schooling at Satisfyer, says. “There are sure STIs which are simpler to contract by way of menstrual blood, akin to HIV and hepatitis B, together with different blood-borne pathogens.” It’s vital to notice that, for the receiver, there’s additionally the next danger of contracting chlamydia and gonorrhea by way of oral intercourse throughout your interval, as your cervix opens throughout menstruation. This can “[allow] for bacterial infections to journey simpler into the cervix, which may then result in contracting pelvic inflammatory disease [an infection of the reproductive organs],” White says. However, if neither associate has any STIs, there is no inherent danger from menstrual blood; it is secure to the touch, get on your physique, and, sure, lick!

If you wish to keep away from fluid swapping, you may consider using a dental dam — a skinny piece of latex held over the vulva to stop contact with bodily fluids, akin to interval blood and vaginal fluid, throughout oral intercourse. The CDC recommends at all times checking the expiration date of dental dams earlier than use and refraining from including oil-based lubricants or merchandise (akin to child oil, lotion, or petroleum jelly). Oil can cause the latex to break down, which may cut back the effectiveness of the barrier and end in tearing the dental dam.

How to Have Oral Sex on Your Period

Aside from simply being actually enjoyable, there are a number of benefits to period sex, together with lowering cramps, boosting your temper, offering stress aid, and enhancing sleep high quality. “Research has proven that orgasms will help relieve menstrual ache, together with migraines and cramps, as orgasms launch the ‘love hormone,’ aka oxytocin, which helps ache administration all through the physique,” White says.

It could really feel extra daunting when blood is concerned, however generally, there aren’t any particular methods for having interval intercourse. What nice interval intercourse appears to be like like is completely as much as you and your associate(s). Maybe it is messy and foolish, within the bathe with a toy, or on your lighter days of menstruation. Maybe you could have intercourse the identical approach you normally do, simply on a towel.

Talk together with your associate: What are you every involved about or interested by making an attempt? Do you thoughts blood on the sheets, your physique, or garments? You can put a towel down or simply move to the shower for sex. You might also wish to wear a tampon or menstrual disc during oral to keep away from getting blood on the sheets or making a large number — simply bear in mind to take away your tampon earlier than any kind of inside (vaginal) intercourse as a result of it might get pushed too far again into the vagina, making it troublesome to take away. If you do transfer to inside intercourse, check out the best positions for mess-free period sex.

Remember: it doesn’t matter what you are into, it is vital to know that oral intercourse just isn’t soiled — and neither are durations. You should expertise pleasure with out stigma or disgrace.

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