In this interview, Casey Hammer, the estranged aunt of Hollywood actor Armie Hammer — who’s one of the consultants on the controversial documentary sequence — particulars her trauma and the way she hopes to assist survivors

In this interview, Casey Hammer, the estranged aunt of Hollywood actor Armie Hammer — who’s one of the consultants on the controversial documentary sequence — particulars her trauma and the way she hopes to assist survivors

In 2021, an Instagram account referred to as House of Effie began posting screenshots of texts between herself and people submitted by ex-girlfriends of Hollywood actor Armie Hammer. Armie, identified for his work in profitable movies like The Social Network and Call Me By Your Name, rapidly went from an up-and-coming golden boy to an outcast. The revelations had been surprising; messages that started as flirtatious, turned kinky after which deeply disturbing, with Armie describing rape fantasies and wanting to eat the ladies. Yes, like a cannibal. 

Beyond the allegations, Armie’s personal on-line behaviour made it exhausting to look away from the drama. From a video of him exhibiting off his lodge room, which openly neglected a girl perched on all fours and clad in black lingerie, to his rampant drug use and bondage memes, clearly one thing was fallacious. In a publish #MeToo period, this was sufficient for the 36-year-old star to be dropped by film producers and his company. 

As the story spiralled deeper into darkness, the web’s popular culture fans turned decided to discover out the total image. The reply? Armie comes from a lengthy line of sickeningly rich and scarily highly effective males who’ve all been bodily, emotionally and sexually abusive… and have gotten away with it. Trapped in this home of horrors was a girl, who had reached her breaking level. That girl was Casey Hammer, Armie’s estranged aunt. 

When information about Armie first broke, Casey wasn’t shocked. Following the publication of her 2015 guide Surviving My Birthright, which particulars her story, Casey has lived a quiet life. But when Talos, the manufacturing firm behind the brand new docu-series House of Hammer, approached her, she noticed it as a chance to assist different survivors. 

As a marketing consultant on the present,  Casey exposes the generational trauma and rampant abuse that has change into synonymous with the Hammer title, going way back to Armie’s great-grandfather, Armand Hammer. In an unique interview with The Hindu, Casey discusses her journey, therapeutic, and the way to assist survivors. 

Excerpts from an interview:

Oftentimes, when girls are in abusive relationships, individuals ask them why they don’t simply depart. You grew up considering that abuse was regular. What made you realise it was time to depart? 

Casey: So in my 30s, I used to be filming B-roll footage as soon as… they had been doing a spot referred to as “Victim No More,” and I used to be to be fake-attacked in a car parking zone. I would like[ed] to be an actor, this is fabulous proper? I’m in the center of it, and all of a sudden, when the man had my arms above my head, it was so acquainted and ingrained in me, that I simply thought I used to be going to die. That was the aha second I had. I keep in mind having all these abusive reminiscences flooding me, conditions the place I used to be in that place of not having the ability to breathe, being suffocated or choked. I keep in mind recounting with my mom, who I hoped would say no, you understand none of that occurred. But the response was that she knew that this stuff had been taking place. It’s that entire feeling; simply because individuals give beginning to you and fake to love you, it doesn’t imply they’ll do no matter they need to you. 

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The documentary addresses the truth that when the revelations about Armie first emerged, many thought it was humorous as a result of it was so absurd. But as soon as House of Effie started sharing all of the survivors’ tales, it turned clear that one thing was fallacious, which in the end led to his “downfall.” In a world the place wealthy and highly effective males typically aren’t held accountable, was this the result that you simply hoped for? 

Casey: When I noticed the headlines, I assumed oh, right here we go! Another Hammer man and the headlines… They had been making enjoyable of the cannibalism and what’s subsequent for Armie. Until somebody truly chooses to atone for their sins, or admit that they even have a drawback, they’re by no means going to change. But that begins with accountability – admitting what occurred – and making an attempt to make good with these victims.

Actor Armie Hammer

Actor Armie Hammer
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I’ll all the time be grateful [to Talos]. They have shined a mild on my household, and whether or not anyone admits to something or anyone adjustments or will get effectively, it doesn’t matter. The truth is that there’s a mild now.

Tell me in regards to the position that social media has performed in all of this?

Casey:  I keep in mind one of my co-workers advised me about somebody referred to as The Zen Blonde, blowing me up on TikTok. I bought on and noticed her live-reading my guide. It was like being on a roller-coaster the place you’re taking the demise drop and never realizing what’s gonna occur. But you simply actually have to imagine every thing’s going to work its approach out. 

And then I noticed individuals caring. But there are additionally the haters. It’s scary, as a result of a individual like me, I can contact a lot of individuals and get fantastic feedback… after which there’s one or two others which can be simply hateful and merciless. Coming from a very abusive household, the place you try to be excellent, you see these feedback and then you definitely go proper into self-hatred and self-sabotage once more. You simply want to learn the way to cope with it and to perform, and to know that every thing exterior just isn’t as necessary as what’s inside, and the way you are feeling about your self.

People watching this docu-series may assume that their tales of abuse and trauma won’t be that unhealthy, in contrast to what you went by way of. How would you reply to them?

Casey: Recently, a co-worker mentioned to me, “You know, Casey, I learn your story, and mine isn’t as unhealthy, however–”. Whenever there’s a however, their story is simply as necessary. It’s the truth that should you really feel such as you’ve been abused, you could have these moments whenever you watch House of Hammer, and also you see your self in it.

It’s a course of, and also you want to get assist. You can’t do it alone, and I believe that’s type of why it’s necessary that I’m coming ahead, trigger I can present you that, even being 61 years previous and considerably put collectively on the surface, I’m nonetheless a mess inside. You’re not damaged, and you’ve got a group. You have somebody that may pay attention and listen to you; I believe that’s what’s most necessary.

House of Hammer is presently streaming on discovery+

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